90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days viewers think Amanda Wilhelm should be sitting in therapy, not in front of cameras. TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days season 6 only premiered a few days ago, but it has already sparked some interesting debates within the fanbase. The show kicked off on June 4, and viewers met five interesting couples — Amanda and Razvan, Gino and Jasmine, Tyray and Carmella, Riley and Violet, and David and Sheila. With three couples — Meisha and Nicola, Statler and Dempsey, and Cleo and Christian — yet to be introduced, fans have much to look forward to in the coming weeks. However, Amanda is already creating quite the buzz with 90 Day Fiancé fans due to her intriguing backstory.
Amanda Wilhelm’s 90 Day Fiancé Story
Amanda is a 31-year-old mother of two, set to take another shot at love as she jets out to meet her Romanian lover, Razvan Ciocoi. Nevertheless, this isn’t what strikes most people about her story. Amanda is a young widow who only lost her husband of eight years, Jason, a few months ago. Doctors diagnosed Jason with stage 4 terminal cancer after he developed lung issues. Sadly, the ailment quickly ravaged his body. He died only ten days after his diagnosis, leaving Amanda heartbroken and with two young children to cater for. Although Amanda’s ordeal earned her sympathy from the fans, many still feel she should be going through serious therapy to get through the grief of losing her husband in such a painful and unexpected manner.
Amanda Is Still Grieving
During episode 1 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days, Amanda moved viewers to tears as she narrated the heartbreaking backstory of how she became a young widow at just 31. The mother of two started by revealing that she and her husband were best friends. Amanda never imagined her life without him. However, disaster struck about a year ago when he started having lung problems, per Intouch Weekly. After eight months of continuous visits to the hospital, he was eventually diagnosed with stage 4 terminal ampullary cancer. While speaking to producers, she tearfully said:
“The cancer was throughout his body. And the doctor said the best-case scenario would be for him to live three months with chemotherapy. And only 10 days after his diagnosis, I was looking at him and kind of seeing … his life left his eyes, and he was gone.”
However, it didn’t take long before the up-and-coming reality TV star returned to the dating scene. She met Romanian social media sensation Razvan on TikTok. They quickly connected, with him offering solace and supporting her during her grieving process. While Amanda may be eager for a second shot at love with Razvan, most 90 Day Fiancé fans believe her rush is a clear signal that she is trying to mask her grief with a quickfire romance.
Many of the show’s fans have expressed concern over the timeline of Amanda’s relationship with Razvan. Many consider her starting a romantic relationship shortly after her husband’s death as a desperate cry for help. It also signifies an attempt to fill the void left by the passing of her husband. During episode 1, it was evident that Amanda was still grieving as she could hardly get any word in without crying. Viewers believe Amanda should have prioritized healing instead of seeking a new romance, as it won’t fill the void.
Amanda’s Romantic Voyage is Unfair on Her Kids
Many of the show’s viewers were not so impressed having to watch Amanda breakdown several times while narrating her backstory during the season 6 premiere of 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days. Some of the fans even went as far as accusing TLC of exploiting such a painful experience for entertainment. Fans found it particularly distasteful that Amanda exposed her grieving children to the camera shortly after their father’s death.
To make things worse, Amanda left her kids for three months on her mission to get her happy ending. For most viewers, this wasn’t a good look on her, making her cut across as insensitive to her kids’ trauma. Amanda’s story sparked a heated debate on Reddit after the episode aired. A Redditor started a thread while sharing a picture of a teary Amanda during her confessional in the season premiere. Users criticized Amanda for abandoning her kids to pursue love instead of being there for them when they needed her. One particular user, DropExciting6408, wrote,
“My opinion she is leaving her kids right after their father died. She should have stayed at home and told him no. There is no way she is over her husband that fast.”
There isn’t any particular way for people to grieve when they lose a loved one. However, the timeline of Amanda’s relationship with Razvan does raise some concerns. Despite her coping ability, her young kids may not be prepared to recover quickly after their father’s tragic demise. So, it wouldn’t be such a bad idea for her to consider therapy, at least for her kids.