In today’s world, individuals are choosing to live lifestyles that work best for them and do what makes them happy. Nobody needs extra baggage weighing them down. This is what one woman is taking into consideration after she was given the offer of a lifetime. She would move from her life of normalcy in South Carolina to a land of opportunities. Now she has a big decision to make for her future, but there is one thing that could weigh her down.
OP posted on r/AITAH to ask, “Should I (24F) move to Alaska without my boyfriend (26M) to get my life together?” She goes on to explain she lives in her mother’s home in South Carolina rent-free. Her boyfriend, too. Currently, she is “carrying a lot of the responsibility in the relationship” including financially, because her boyfriend lost his previous job due to not waking up on time.
After this backstory, OP explains her mother lives in a remote area of Alaska and offered her a unique opportunity. She could move there with her boyfriend and work to save money. Allegedly, there are good financial opportunities in this area and she would be able to save enough money to buy land or a house in a state of her choosing in the future if she decides this is the best decision for her. Excitedly, she went to her boyfriend to tell him the plan, but he was less than impressed. In fact, she said his response was, “Okay, well I’m probably not gonna go.”
OP says she’s a big traveler while her boyfriend is not, and he hasn’t really left the Carolinas. Though they’ve been together for 2 years, she doesn’t think he’s very responsible financially. It’s made her think about their future where he isn’t in it. She asks, “Is this life giving me an out? Should I go to Alaska, set myself up, and stop waiting around for someone who won’t grow up or grow with me?”
Of course, Reddit was rearing to go on giving her the advice she was looking for. The top commenter stated, “Take it. You also need to get your mom to evict your (soon to be ex) bf. He won’t leave that house because he’s had a free ride.” Harsh, but exactly what she needs to do. Another encouraged her, “OP you have already wasted 2 years with a person who dims your light. Geez. Kick him out. Pack your bags and hightail to Alaska! What are you waiting for???”
Others gave her good advice such as changing the house’s locks when she leaves and making sure the house is rented out. She wouldn’t want an ex-boyfriend squatting (which is creepy to think of). The forum was filled with good advice and encouragement for her in accordance with her future plans, which we love to see! Now Siri, please play “Should I stay or should I go?” by The Clash.
