How do you usually handle toxic friends who want to butt you out of social events with friends? Maybe you send an angry text or give them a call, or try to patch things up. One woman from Minneapolis showed her Army veteran resiliency when one toxic acquittance left her high-and-dry on an invitation to their Christmas party. Instead, she saw it as a chance to reassess her friend group. They can write her into the Burn Book all they want, but she’s fireproof.
In a video, TikToker Hope opens up about a Christmas party she was all be sure she’d be attending. In fact, all of her friends were invited. “I was honestly kind of waiting for my text to come in and I never got it. And for that, I’m so thankful,” she admits. “I see everything as positive,” Hope adds, turning this slight into a learning experience.
The lesson she learned, Hope argues, “I’m never going to waste my time, my valued limited time, with this individual again,” but affirms her friends aren’t to blame here and she’ll continue seeing them.
Though Hope has a feeling the host knew she should’ve been there, any invitation she might get in the future will feel immediately sour. “I would rather not be invited to something than be invited out of pity,” Hope says. If she did, she argues it’s an invitation for others to laugh “in your face.”
While it’s awesome that someone can take a hit on the chin like that and see it as a learning experience, one commenter brought up a good point. They argued someone from Hope’s friend group should’ve spoken up because “it’s not okay to invite everyone except one person.”
Furthermore, they added, “A group has a responsibility to stop behaviour like that, especially when it’s happening within their own circle.”
One commenter hypothesized Hope’s friends “talk about you behind your back,” hence the lack of invitation. However, as another pointed out, “I mean, it sounds like her friends didn’t know?” and that seems to be the case. Hope said herself some friends did ask where she was during the Christmas party.
Another commenter missed the point entirely, suggesting it isn’t disrespectful to not invite certain people, adding “Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay.” On the surface, they aren’t wrong, but that ignores the context altogether. It’s as if Hope’s friends expected her to be there. Fortunately, it sounds like Hope dodged a bullet!
