We’ve all heard the derogatory term that people throw around about brides who get demanding or controlling before their big day: Bridezilla. One maid of honor from Illinois thinks her cousin is a shoo-in candidate. This was due to the fact she was apparently unbearable before her wedding. Now, the maid of honor is wondering if she even wants to be a part of the wedding. She wonders if it would be better to simply step down.
The maid of honor shared her story on Reddit’s r/weddingshaming forum. She starts off by saying, “Our side of the family isn’t well off, basically everyone is struggling including the bride.” This is important because the bride’s expectations are seemingly too high. The maid of honor said the reason behind this is that “On social media, she sees everyone having all these extra parties and she wants it.”
The maid of honor has tried to speak with the bride to let her know that this doesn’t need to be a huge spectacle. Instead, she should enjoy the day rather than obsess over a lavish event. What makes it worse is, according to the maid of honor, they’re all in their 20s and want to start saving.
The bride responded with a lack of understanding. She went on to say, “When I say all this she say’s I’m bringing her down, being negative and acting annoyed.” That’s not only unfair; it’s totally uncalled for.
The maid of honor figured if her cousin wasn’t going to worry, she won’t push back anymore. She stated, “I figured if she doesn’t care to put herself in debt neither should I. I’m just gonna say yes and agree with whatever she says if she wants to pay for everything.”
Reddit commenters responded with varying suggestions. One of the most popular is telling the MOH that she should consider stepping down from her stressful position. As one commenter said, “Bridesmaids can be fired, or they can resign. You don’t have to throw a screaming match, you can just say quietly that you’re sorry but you’re unable to provide all the things she’s asking for.”
It can be an especially painful thing for a family member to act this way on their big day. Sometimes, it isn’t worth the trouble or stress. Planning is supposed to be fun as the maid of honor. When the fun is removed from the process, maybe it’s time to consider your mental health.
