Marriage is a social institution that usually has an image of being the best thing that can happen to someone. Of course, society also evolves and adapts, which makes ideas and how we see things change. Nowadays, in many countries, people can marry whomever they want or change customs. For example, when spouses take the husband’s or wife’s last name or keep their own. However, although some ideas are evolving, others are hard to change. This was noticed by a woman in Michigan, who was upset to discover that when she got married, people treated her differently, like calling her by her husband’s last name, even though she didn’t change her name. It is as if the wife is no longer a person after marriage.
Ally Rooker shared in her TikTok allyrooker her experience after only six months of marriage, which has nothing to do with her husband. Ally tells how, almost immediately, people began to treat her as an attachment to her husband and not as a separate person, as if her identity revolved around just being a wife. For example, when Ally did a process for both of their taxes, even though she cared for everything, they always addressed her husband as the responsible one and her as just a “spouse.” The same happened when they both wanted a mortgage or needed a contractor. This woman from Michigan said that she gets angry when acquaintances and strangers refuse to call her by her name and call her Ally “husband’s name and last name.”
Some of the comments on the video were from many women with this same problem, like:
It’s infuriating. I’m a doctor, my husband is not. I kept my last name. Mail will come addressed to Dr. HIS LAST NAME. His name isn’t associated with my license in any way!!!!!
Samantha Loza
This is not only for straight couples because people create an imaginary husband in same-gender couples. Others try to see who “has the male role,” even if the couple are two males or females.
I’m a lesbian and we had an electrician come to the house. He told my wife to discuss the work with her husband before deciding. They even make up a husband when there are two women staring at them 😭
TheFartKnocker
Fortunately, as we said before, things and habits are slowly changing. It may not be too long before people start to see marriage as not just an amalgamation but as two individuals doing their best to make the best of it.
