Relationships don’t always work out the way we want them to, especially when there’s unexpected interference. And sometimes, one person isn’t as invested in the relationship as you. One woman in North Carolina found out the hard way, resulting in her seeking divorce from her husband. But it doesn’t stop there. She’s been dealing with stalking, threats, and harassment from the woman who helped ruin her relationship. Now she’s taking steps to report her stalker and wants to know if she crossed a line. Spoiler alert: No, she did not.
The post was captioned, “AIO – for reporting a nursing student to her school for ongoing threats, harassment, and stalking?” in r/AmIOverreacting. OP starts out by saying she’s in the midst of a divorce due to her husband’s infidelity. Allegedly, the woman he cheated on OP with has been repeatedly harassing her with threats of violence through messages and phone calls.
OP has already done her due diligence and told the woman she wants no part in any of this. She asked her nicely to stop contacting her but she continues to call, text, and even show up in person at places where she knows OP is going to be so she can harass her in person as well. Finally, OP had enough when she received a recent threatening phone call. She took things to the magistrate and pressed charges (with evidence in hand!) for stalking, harassment, simple assault, and communicating threats. Now, the woman is facing criminal charges but still doesn’t want to let up on the threatening behavior.
OP says the reason why she’s worried about the woman is because she’s currently pregnant. Her stalker’s constant presence has been nothing but negative. Furthermore, she doesn’t want the situation to escalate even further and put her unborn baby at risk. Now, OP is asking if she should take things a step further herself.
She wants to let the woman’s nursing program know about her stalking behavior, as she’s currently going through nursing school. OP pointed out “I don’t want to be seen as vengeful” but she “feels like there needs to be accountability, especially in a profession where people’s safety and well-being are on the line.” So, is she overreacting or does she have the right after what she’s dealt with?
One commenter said, “From stalking, threats, harassment, to her literal affair? Nah, scorch the earth. This isn’t revenge, this is protecting yourself and your baby, and anyone this woman might try abusing and obsessing over in the future.” Another agreed, “Given the severity of the situation, I think you’re justified in notifying her nursing program” and added that the harassment is a “serious red flag.”
No matter what, stalking, harassment, and threats should always be taken seriously. Even if you think somebody won’t follow through on their threats, you never really know. And it has to be extra scary when you’ve got a baby on the way. It pays to stay aware of what others say and do. OP isn’t in the wrong, and her stalker should feel the consequence of her actions.
