Anyone scrolling through TikTok knows it’s full of funny clips, dance trends, and quick takes on daily life. But every so often, a video appears that feels less like entertainment and more like a gut punch of reality. That’s what TikTok users found when a single mother from Utah picked up her phone to share a raw and emotional video about the pressures of raising children alone. In the five-minute clip filmed from inside her car, the woman called it a “crash out post” and spoke candidly about the uphill battle of single motherhood. She warned other women not to marry or have kids unless they are ready to handle raising them alone. “Nine times out of ten… that’s probably what’s going to happen,” she said, explaining how men can walk away and leave mothers carrying the full burden.
Her voice shook at points, and her eyes welled with tears as she explained that despite loving her children deeply, the system feels stacked against women in her position. One of her biggest frustrations was child support. She claimed she receives only $250 a month from her ex, who works as a nurse. “That is gas money,” she said, adding that it barely covers the cost of driving her kids to and from his home. She stressed that what makes it worse is how fathers still manage to take moments of motherhood away, leaving women in survival mode instead of enjoying raising their children.
At one point in the video, she briefly opened up about her past. She said that during her first pregnancy, the man involved had initially told her he couldn’t have children, only to later fight her in court for five years over custody. “I had to put my boots on the ground and become a single mom at 21 years old,” she shared, her words heavy with regret and exhaustion. She also blamed the pressures of patriarchy and said she no longer believes meaningful change in men’s attitudes will come in her lifetime. “Just don’t date men,” she concluded firmly. “Don’t have kids with the wrong person.”
Netizens React to the Utah Single Mom’s Video
The comments under her post were mostly supportive. “Who else wants to hug her,” one person wrote, adding crying emojis. Another chimed in, “SHES [sic] NOT EXAGGERATING. Not even a little bit.” A third user validated her emotions, remarking, “This crash out is so valid,” while a fourth added, “Felt this in my soul.”
There were also people who shared their own experiences, with one comment reading, “I waited until I was 39 to get pregnant. I was married, had a good career, did everything the ‘right’ way. My husband left me at 10 weeks pregnant. She’s not wrong!!” Someone else admitted, “I’m married, yet somehow I’m still a single mom.” A different commenter noted the imbalance in parenting duties, saying, “Have you ever paid attention to how much free time fathers have compared to mothers? They are living their best life.”
