It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact some things are completely out of your control. However, when times get tough, it pays to stick together instead of working apart from those we love. A woman in New York turned to Reddit to ask if she is overreacting for being upset with her husband. Apparently, he’s been treating her poorly ever since they’ve been having issues conceiving a child. Now, she’s starting to realize that she deserves much more than she’s been given during this tumultuous time.
The post was made on r/AmIOverreacting, aptly titled, “AIO for being upset after husband says I played him and I ruined his life?” OP goes on to explain she’s been married to her husband for a decade. They’ve been through a lot together, both good and bad. She says that they have been trying to have a baby together and the journey has been anything but easy.
After a recent miscarriage, her husband has been acting out of character and putting the blame on her. She said he accused her of “manipulating his choices, forcing him to decide to be with me or not and ruining his life.” Furthermore, she said he claims “I am not respecting him because we don’t have a kid yet” as if that is her fault.
Now, OP has been talking to her husband about her concerns as far as bringing a child into the world. She is concerned about money, his family’s role in their baby’s life, and how they will make things work. However, she feels as if her husband isn’t listening to these concerns. He reacts with anger any time she tries to bring it up. He even judged her for her lax lifestyle and said she’s “acting like a 60-year-old” and that’s “probably the reason” why she hasn’t gotten pregnant yet.
It appears this marriage has bigger fish, et alone bringing a child into the world. Reddit wasn’t afraid to let OP know this. One person commented on her reality, “Not sure what you are getting out of this relationship. He’s getting you, and that’s a good deal for him, but you got a lemon.” He’s quick to judge her on her fertility but yet he can’t obtain a job and wants to throw judgments out any chance he gets.
Another commenter pointed out, “It sounds like you already have a child at home. Why would you want to procreate with this guy who you support? If you have a child, he would expect you to care for it, just as you do for him. He sounds like a tireless waste of space.” OP has some considerations to make about her future and the future of her relationship as well, as it seems her relationship is doing nothing but holding her back from what she wants and deserves.
