Dishonesty is a trait few people can tolerate, especially in relationships. After all, how are you supposed to give your heart to someone if they can’t be open and true to you? That said, one California woman was on a date with a man at a restaurant. They had already spent around two hours together, likely getting to know each other before getting something to eat and drink. They ordered her favorite wine and continued chatting until he dropped a heavy bomb on her: he was already married.
Understandably furious, the woman took the bottle of wine and stormed out. She toook a photo of the bottle and him in the background initially because she loves the Rombauer brand and wanted to share it with her friend. However, after this unexpected disaster of a date, she fittingly posted the picture to r/mildlyinfuriating. However, before she left the diner, she did make sure to clarify what he meant by “I’m married.”
“No, they’re not divorced or even separated, & he’s not a widower. He even went as far to say she’s not allowed on dates…but he is. I really can’t make this up 😩,” she groaned. In other words, the man was polyamorous and likely in an open marriage where he was allowed to date other women while his wife had to stay loyal, according to his explanation. While he might have been forthcoming about his married status eventually to his date, the fact that he didn’t clarify this sooner is nothing short of dishonesty and disrespect for his date.
At the very least, she got some wine out of the experience, unless she was the one who paid. “I’m from around the way, I’M LEAVIN’ WITH SOMETHING,” she exclaimed in the comments. Others in the comment section made note of his rather telling fashion choice for the date. “Dude’s dressed like hes expecting his wife to be at the same place,” points out a Redditor. “A hat on indoors at a restaurant,” says another. “I would’ve found his wife on socials and dmed her along with the pic,” joked a third.
A few others shared their similar nightmare dates with a polyamorous individual. One woman recalled, “I texted him the next day telling him his behavior was deeply not okay and made me feel like he was auditioning me to cheat on his girlfriend.” While open marriages aren’t exactly uncommon, not letting someone know such a crucial factor is wrong, especially two hours into a date. Still, some believe his reveal was a “blessing in disguise.” As one person commented, “The bright side is: at least this guy told you now than 8 months in or not ever…”
