A 25-year-old woman who was out partying with friends at a bar in Boston, Massachusetts, is catching heat online after she shared a TikTok video questioning why none of the men around her had approached her throughout the night.
When she panned her camera to show the men in the crowded bar, they appeared to be minding their own business, talking and socializing in small groups. “This is my proof that I think the population is gonna slowly decline,” the woman said in the clip. “Because I am in a room of like 100 men and not one of them has approached.” She also added that she believes men today may simply be less interested in dating in person and are more inclined to do so via dating apps.
Now while she didn’t really sound like she was complaining and seemed to be merely wondering why guys didn’t “approach girls anymore,” many people in her comments didn’t see it that way. Some criticized her for assuming that men would approach her in the first place. “Men don’t owe you anything. Hope this helps,” one netizen wrote. Another commented, “Leave them alone they’re having fun.”
A few even said that the way she was presenting herself was what discouraged people from starting a conversation. “It’s your energy. You seem rude,” one person claimed. “Maybe it’s the fact you’re holding your phone out and recording,” someone else suggested. “Basically what she is saying is I’m annoyed that me and my friends had to pay for our own drinks all night,” a third added mockingly.
Not Everyone Viewed the Video Negatively
Some viewers actually defended the Massachusetts woman saying that her question had been taken too seriously. “These comments are sad. It’s just a conversation,” one viewer remarked.
Some also offered their own opinions on why men don’t approach anymore, with one writing, “Society now shames men for approaching women in many social scenarios and who wants to be labelled a creep? I absolutely loathe the way that meeting people online now appears to have become the norm, but at least it makes sense – you’re not going to be shamed for swiping on a dating app.”
