When you’re in a relationship, you want to do what’s best for you and your partner. But what happens if you disagree over what started out as a small issue, and it turns into a much bigger one? A man turned to Reddit and asked, “Am I the A*****e?” after he decided not to cancel a Florida vacation he had planned for some time just because of his girlfriend’s views.
On r/AITAH, OP goes on to explain he’s been wanting to visit the Wizarding World of Harry Potter for years. He came into inheritance, paid off some debt, and wants to enjoy Florida. He has been with his girlfriend for four years and has been wanting to visit Universal Orlando to experience the Wizarding World of Harry Potter for several years as well. Unfortunately, his girlfriend of four years didn’t want to go, nor does he think he should either.
Why? Well, her brother is trans, and Rowling’s views on trans people are incredibly gross. OP’s girlfriend found out Rowling is using her fortune to fund anti-trans campaigns. You can see why she’d kick up a fuss, right? She thinks he’s supporting transphobia.
Unfortunately, OP also said that if he cancels the trip now, he won’t get a refund for his tickets. In conclusion, OP said, “I respect what she’s saying and where she’s coming from, but I’m not throwing away that kind of money. And she can’t just ban me from going somewhere, I’m an adult just like she is and I can make my own decisions.”
Most of Reddit was in agreement with OP and claimed he is “NTA”—not the asshole. One person commented, “”Not allowed” to go. You are an adult and you should not allow someone to control you. She can make her argument and decide her views but you decide on your own.”
Others shared their thoughts on Universal as a whole, saying they “celebrate pride month and donate 100% profits from all “love is universal” merch to LGBT organizations.” However, others have opposed this and claimed, “They also donate money to republican politicians who sponsor anti-LGBTQ bills. Universal is a corporation; they are two-faced on all issues, as long as it can make them money.” That’s fair. I see this trend with mostly all major businesses these days.
Others have suggested, “Enjoy your trip. Find a new girlfriend” which, of course, is easier said than done when you have four years under the belt with somebody you’re very close to. It does, however, pose a significant question: If OP chooses to go, will it be the end of the relationship and the trust they’ve built?
In the end, he will need to make the choice that works best for him, even if it means going on the trip and having her question if the relationship can continue.
