Being a caregiver can be quite tiresome; anyone who’s cared for an older relative would know, though some belittle such work, as did an alleged entitled Florida daughter-in-law. According to Healermoonchild in r/mildlyinfuriating, this daughter-in-law only visits her mother and father-in-law every several months. For little reason given, she looks down on their caregiver, Healermoonchild, and has even gone out of her way to allegedly harass her without remorse.
During one of her occasional visits, the daughter-in-law offered to cook for her in-laws, but intentionally used the private bathroom set aside for Healermoonchild, despite the house having multiple bathrooms. “She told me that because she cooked, washing the cookware was part of my service as a caregiver,” OP recalled, even though cooking isn’t one of her duties. She made things worse by saying, “Well, because I provided a service while YOU were out, I thought you could wash them.”
“To top it off, she made sure to tell me the leftovers were for her in-laws, not me,” Healermoonchild wrote, adding how this nosy family member was snooping through her room as well. The daughter didn’t stop her bullying there; after the unnecessary leftovers comment, she added, “Oh, and I used YOUR bathroom and your dog got out for a bit.” Needless to say, the caregiver was understandably furious and set boundaries with her client’s relative.
Reddit Condemned the Florida Daughter-in-Law for Her Alleged Mistreatment Against the Caregiver
Many Redditors were shocked by how cruel and disrespectful someone could be toward the individual who cares for their family, let alone another person. That said, thousands applauded Healermoonchild for standing up for herself against the alleged bully. “Good on you for voicing your complaints and informing her of boundaries. So many people these days are afraid to speak up for themselves and just let people freely walk all over them,” remarked a user.
OP agreed with a response, “People do try to take advantage of caregivers or housekeepers. I have some friends who do housekeeping and they are constantly asked to do things that are not their job.” Reacting to the story, one commenter couldn’t contain their anger towards the daughter-in-law, saying, “MASSIVELY infuriating, why? — because she thinks your time is hers to command.”
Dozens upon dozens of others shared experiences of their own or of others they knew, and all collectively expressed the same sentiment: caregiving can be a very thankless job, despite the physical and mental hardships. As one person aptly puts it, “Some people treat caregivers like servants or maids. We’re there to look after people, not your mess if you are not the person being cared for.”
